Learn NVC, one step at a time
Clear articles on feelings, needs, empathy and conflict. Start at the level that fits you and practise what you read.
The Four Steps of NVC, With Everyday Examples
What are the four steps of Nonviolent Communication? See observation, feeling, need and request in a real situation, and where the steps can go wrong.
Read articleFeelings vs Thoughts: Why "I Feel Ignored" Is Not a Feeling in NVC
Why is "I feel ignored" not a feeling in NVC? Learn a simple rule to tell feelings from thoughts, with ten common examples and the needs behind them.
Read articleEmpathy in NVC: how to listen without fixing, advising or agreeing
What empathy means in Nonviolent Communication, six habits that get in the way, and simple sentences to try instead when someone needs to be heard.
Read articleSelf empathy in NVC: a practical way to calm down before a difficult conversation
A five minute self empathy practice in four questions for an argument, an upsetting mail or a hard talk with your child, plus its honest limits.
Read articleUsing NVC in Conflict and Mediation: When Both People Need to Be Heard
How Nonviolent Communication helps when two people both want to be heard, when it does not, and how a mediator works with needs instead of positions.
Read articleIs NVC Manipulative? Does It Work at Work? An Honest Look at the Evidence
Is nonviolent communication manipulative, and does it work at work? An honest look at the criticism, what early research shows, and where its limits are.
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