Learn Nonviolent Communication

Learn NVC, one step at a time

Clear articles on feelings, needs, empathy and conflict. Start at the level that fits you and practise what you read.

Why learning NVC in a small group works differently

Why I keep my NVC groups to a maximum of twelve people, and how practice, buddies and community help the learning stay in daily life.

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Level 2

From Half-Yes to Full Choice: A Pathway to Liberation

Do you often tell yourself you have to or should? Try the Pathway to Personal Liberation to reconnect with choice and the needs behind what you do.

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Level 1 Foundation

How to say something difficult to a family member with the NVC Four Steps

A story from a Foundation Course about slowing down a tense moment with the four steps, and finding honest words that keep the other person's ears and heart open.

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Living NVC with Children

How do we stay connected to children when we are overwhelmed or in conflict? I share what led me to create the course Living NVC with Children.

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A moment of insight through NVC and Media Richness Theory

Have you spent ages writing a message and wondered how it would land? Explore how the channel you choose can support understanding in a difficult conversation.

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Level 2

From Inner Conflict to Inner Understanding

Stuck on a difficult decision? Discover how the Yes/No Dance helps you explore the needs behind both your yes and your no, so more choices appear.

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The power of silent listening

What happens when we listen without interrupting? A personal story about silent listening with friends, and a simple practice to try yourself.

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Taking Ownership of my Feelings: A Personal Story

How do we move from frustration and blame towards choice? A personal story about taking ownership of my feelings while cleaning the house.

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Level 1 Foundation

Needs in NVC: What Are Needs and How Do You Find Yours?

What are needs in Nonviolent Communication? Learn how needs differ from strategies, which needs we all share, and how to find yours with a short exercise.

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Level 1 Foundation

Observation vs Evaluation in NVC: How to Observe Without Judging

Learn the difference between observation and evaluation in NVC. Try the camera test, see everyday examples and practice observing without judgment this week.

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Level 3

The path to CNVC certification: what it is and where to start

An introduction to becoming a CNVC Certified Trainer in Nonviolent Communication, who considers it, and how a year long learning community can support the path.

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What Happens in a Week-Long NVC Retreat? What to Expect

Wondering what a week-long NVC retreat is like? Read about time to practise, a small group, who it is for, how to prepare and how to sign up.

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Level 1 Foundation

Request or demand in NVC: How to ask in a way that leaves room for choice

What is the difference between a request and a demand in NVC? Learn to ask clearly, concretely and in positive words, with examples for home and work.

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Level 1 Foundation

The Four Steps of NVC for Honest Expression

What are the four steps of NVC and how can they help you express yourself honestly? Explore them through everyday examples at home and at work.

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How to learn NVC: where to begin with Nonviolent Communication

How do you learn Nonviolent Communication? Treat it like a new language: practice with others and in daily life, and follow a route from intro workshop to Level 3.

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Level 2

Raising Children with Compassion: Beyond Punishment and Rewards

Children show us where we are connected to life and where we are stuck in old habits. A look at power with, punishment and reward, guilt and shame, and protective use of force.

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Level 2

Self-Empathy in NVC: Learning to Listen to Yourself

Learn how to practise self-empathy in NVC by giving space to your judgments, discovering the feelings and needs underneath them, and choosing what to do next. Includes a practical three-step exercise for everyday life.

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Level 2

Empathy in NVC: how to listen without fixing, advising or agreeing

What empathy means in Nonviolent Communication, six habits that get in the way, and simple sentences to try instead when someone needs to be heard.

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Level 1 Foundation

Feelings and Thoughts: Understanding the difference in NVC

What's the difference between feelings and thoughts in Nonviolent Communication (NVC)? Explore why expressions like "I feel ignored" or "I feel rejected" may contain interpretations, how to recognise the feelings and needs underneath them, and how this awareness can help you understand yourself and communicate more clearly with others.

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Free introduction to NVC: what happens in a two hour online workshop

What to expect from a free two hour online introduction to Nonviolent Communication, and who it is for.

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The Gift of Giving

A personal reflection on giving without duty or obligation, and what changes when we give and receive from full choice.

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Raising Children by Example: It's not what you say. It's what you do.

A story about a spoken appreciation round, what children learn from what we live, and why saying out loud what we value in each other creates deep connection.

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